Monday, July 8, 2013

#sluttyconfessions

The other night I was looking through some posts on twitter and I decided to look at what was trending.  I was very surprised to see #sluttyconfessions was trending on twitter.  My interest grew and I wanted to see what people were posting.  The following are some examples (and not the R rated ones) of what I read:
   "Getting naked with my crush"
   "I sent these nudes to a guy once"
   "I just want to cuddle & make out with someone. I just don't care."
   "Friends with Benefits"
   "When kissing scenes come on TV I don't close my eyes"
   "I gotta slow my rocker and stop breakin boys hearts"
   "I sleep naked"
   "Sometimes when I walk up the stairs at school I look at people's butts"
   "I'm a virgin"
          What I truly don't understand is how our culture has evolved to degrading the human person as a trending topic on social media.  When did we lose sight of our own self-worth?  In a culture that is so self-centered how can we also be so self-degrading?  It would seem to me that in our self-centered culture our sexuality would be last thing we would want to compromise.  And yet here are all these people throwing their sexuality to the masses as a game.  Even to joke on ones own sexuality just blows my mind.  Sex is a Holy act that reveals God.  In my own case (living a celibate life) sex is more mystical because the Eucharist is the nuptial for the Church- "This is my Body given up for you."
          All I can think of is that these sexual self-degrading acts are really a cry for love.  I think these people are searching for love.  They want an intimacy that they aren't receiving from their friends with benefits, online relationships, and superficial friendships.  They think that by giving away one of the best gifts God has given us they will find the love and intimacy they seek.  If only they knew that true love and intimacy only lies in a relationship with God.
          We will find true love in God.  But to be in love we need to fall in love and then let the love deicide everything.  To fall in love with God is the vital point of energy for every choice that follows and is the sustaining truth that endures throughout ones relationship with God.  Pope Emeritus Benedict XVI said this about falling in love with God: "it's a longing so great that it passes human nature."  This is a falling in love with God that opens the door to a chaste life (which we are all called to live) and turns you into an eschatological person/sign. As an eschatological sign you will show others what sainthood looks like.
          The nature of love is about decimation.  God will destroy our selfish self.  For those called to be married your spouse will kill your selfish self.  There is no other reality that contains the true intentions of God toward us other than the cross.  We MUST live at the foot of the cross with our Blessed Mother and behold Christ.  This is the reality of the Saints!  We must allow this mystery to wash over us and live on us so that we may remain in love with God.  Another way to remain in love with God is to be explicit in our prayers with Jesus so that he can heal our wounds.  Be deeply specific and vulnerable with Christ and he will meet us in the pain.  By doing this we will experience a profound dying to all that is kept secret and hidden in our souls.  To keep secrets from Jesus (and others for that matter) is giving in to Satan.  Jesus wants our WHOLE HEART!  We can't keep anything from Jesus!

          God has made visible the invisible.  We are images of God created "very good" according to Genesis.  We need to respect ourselves, especially our sexuality!  All humans yearn for love and intimacy and God waits to be intimate with you.  God already loves you and is seeking you.  Go and find him.  Go and fall in love with him.  And hopefully the next trend will be #holyconfessions.